Pride video

•July 1, 2008 • 2 Comments

Still no time for a real update, but this video captures some of the exhilaration and enthusiasm in Delhi on Sunday. Article 377, by the way, is India’s infamous “sodomy law.” Sign the Open Letter against it:

Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, a colonial-era law dating to 1861, which punitively criminalizes romantic love and private, consensual sexual acts between adults of the same sex.

In independent India, as earlier, this archaic and brutal law has served no good purpose. It has been used to systematically persecute, blackmail, arrest and terrorize sexual minorities. It has spawned public intolerance and abuse, forcing tens of millions of gay and bisexual men and women to live in fear and secrecy, at tragic cost to themselves and their families. It is especially disgraceful that Section 377 has on several recent occasions been used by homophobic officials to suppress the work of legitimate HIV-prevention groups, leaving gay and bisexual men in India even more defenceless against HIV infection.


Delhi be Proud

•June 29, 2008 • 4 Comments

The first ever Delhi Queer Pride happened, the turnout was overwhelmingly more than expected, no violence, no heckling, good media coverage so far, and hundreds of deliriously happy  we’re-here-we’re-queer and hetero-homo-bhai-bhais later, I’m too excited and on too much of a high to actually write, so I’ll leave you with some pics:


Queer Dilliwalis

Aapki tarif?

•June 26, 2008 • Leave a Comment

Please see the CHANGE OF ROUTE posted in the Delhi Queer Pride announcement BELOW!

Wow, there’s been a sudden upsurge of traffic since I posted the Delhi Queer Pride announcement; I’m guessing that this blog is showing up near the top in any searches for Pride info. I’m glad there’s so much interest in the event, and I’d love to know who y’all are. Please come in, look around, say hi, introduce yourselves in a comment — and maybe I’ll see you on Sunday!

Delhi Queer Pride 2008

•June 19, 2008 • 3 Comments

This June 29th, for the first time, Queer Pride celebrations will erupt on the streets of Delhi, alongside simultaneous marches in Kolkata and Bangalore!

Queer Pride is a celebration. It is about loving who we are, whether lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, hijra or straight, and affirming everyone’s right to be respected for their own sexual choices.

This year, queer people, friends, and allies take this message to the streets!


After day long negotiations with the police, we have to make changes to our route for Delhi Queer Pride ’08 since Sec 144 [which prohibits gatherings in large parts of Central Delhi, including CP] prevents us from marching from Regal through Central Park as planned. We now have a new route and a new meeting point with full police permission and support!

NEW MEETING POINT: The corner of Barakhamba Road and Tolstoy Marg, just south of the Metro station on Barakhamba Road, and in front of the Intercontinental Hotel on Tolstoy Marg
NEW ROUTE: We get a much longer walk! We walk to a clear road blocked of traffic by the police [thank you!] down Tolstoy Marg, past the intersection with Janpath, and then to Jantar Mantar as originally planned, where we will have celebrating, singing, speeches and a candlelight vigil.
SAME MEETING TIME: 5:30pm on 29th June!

********Forward this message widely to your queer friends and straight allies — lets get everyone out on Sunday! Please post on all blogs or messageboards where you think there might be any interest this!**********

**If you want to be out on the street and yet under cover, we will provide masks to cover your face, or bring something along yourself. Nevertheless, please remember this is a public event.**

Delhi Queer Pride Commitee is an open forum of city residents. Anyone can join – please email to be part of organising Delhi Queer Pride ’08. We are also fundraising for the Pride, so email if you want to contribute or volunteer!

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Love is simple

•June 1, 2008 • 3 Comments

This is part affirmation, part reminder to myself and the rest of the universe. Something, somehow put this song in my head the other day and reminded me to stop moping, stop obsessing, stop treading the same tired paths of self-reproach, recrimination and fear. I’ve been swinging wildly from nostalgia to close to hopelessness, from rage around 180 degrees to desire, blaming them all on the pangs of love, but however intertwined with it they might be, they are not love, and nor are my agonisings about her, about me, about ‘us’ and whether ‘we’ exist at all and what it all means. Love is calm moments when all the insistent inner voices are silenced — waking up to see my dog prancing through the bushes, her tail a question mark of possibilities, scattering petals everywhere; breathing in the cool rain smell from the wet clay pots by the side of the road; losing myself in the easy swing of my own body running in the park; finding the perfect words to fit a feeling… Love is those moments shared, even if only mentally, because I am not just me for that moment, I’m also her because I care so much about her that it eclipses my own reaction, even if she isn’t there. Love is being able to take a breath and tell that moment honestly — I would like to share this beauty with you, you were in my thoughts, you bring me happiness, I love you — and stop there, not go on to do you think of me, when do I hear from you, suppose we never see each other again, have you stopped loving me yet? Love is being able to send that moment winging its way through the universe and accept fully the response the universe sends back. Love is doing this over and over and over again, as fresh and beautiful each time, even if there was no answer, even if a kiss came flying back with its own love, even if you didn’t quite dare to send it at all. Love is simple, but it isn’t easy.

Catching Up

•May 20, 2008 • Leave a Comment

I just realised that I was tagged ages ago by tonguetiedblue for this meme. I’m not sure that much of it applies to me, actually, but I thought I’d take a stab at it anyway:

This is Isabella’s Sex Meme. Anyone is welcome to steal it, but you must post this rules blurb at the beginning of the meme.

1: You must include this link to Sex Talk – Sex Advice for Men.
2. You must answer every question! If you don’t have a good answer, you are strongly encouraged to make up something good; we like to be entertained.
3. You must tag three people: Consider yourselves tagged if you’re interested.

Here goes:

1. Sex in the Morning or Sex at Night?
Either one — I love the intimacy of waking up next to or around someone, being aware, almost before being consciously awake, of the desire between the two of you. I also like the slow build during the whole evening, whether it’s out on a formal date or a workaday night at home, the anticipation of sex flashing between the two of us in between whatever else is going on.

2. Better Sex Music – Sade or Marvin Gaye?
Um. There is music that’s sexy to me, but I don’t really have anything like ‘sex music’ in my mind.

3. Naughty Pics or Naughty Home Videos?
Pictures, definitely; movies and videos don’t leave too much room for the imagination.

4. Fabulous Sex With: Dr Doug Ross or Dr Greg House?
No idea who either one is — but since they both seem to be men, the point is probably moot.

5. Vibrator or Dildo?
I like ones that vibrate and are insertable — so both?

6. Bedroom Sex: Lights Off or Lights On?
Either. Both. It honestly doesn’t matter, though I’d avoid either floodlighting or pitch blackness.

7. Word Preference: Pussy or Cunt?
Neither, really — they don’t seem to have much to do with the real thing, somehow. I might have a slight preference for cunt, because pussy just reminds me of learning “The Owl and the Pussy Cat” by heart, but I don’t actually use either, much.

8. Spanking Over the Knee or Spanking Only During Sex?
Well, I enjoy the idea of both, but have only experienced one — clearly, further research is indicated.

9. More Exciting: Sex in an Elevator or Sex in an Aeroplane?
Nothing sexy about an aeroplane at all, but even the most nondescript stranger sparks some curiosity when you’re in an elevator with nothing to do but look at them, so elevator it is.

10. Ron Jeremy or Peter North?
I think ignorance might be bliss here….

11. Word Preference? Cock or dick?

12. Linda Lovelace or Jenna Jameson?
I don’t have the faintest idea who they are either.

13. Rope Bondage or Bondage Tape
Rope, definitely; tape is too much like bad memories of waxing

14. Give Rim Job or Receive Anal Sex?
Insufficient data.

15. Get Rich Stripping in a Skanky Bar or Get Rich as a Call Girl for Celebs?
Call girl, definitely; I hate performing in front of a crowd.

16. Which Threesome – Boy/Girl/Girl or Boy/Boy/Girl?
If I absolutely had to choose, then the former, but it’s practically at the bottom of my list of things I’d like to do.

17. Flavoured Oil or Tingling Oil?
Neither. Scented oil is nice enough thank you.

18. Favorite Non-Sexual Object to Make Sexual?
Cloth — watching someone drape the sheets around them, or the feel of a sari swirling around me.

19. Sex While Strangers Watch or Sex With a Stranger?
Have I mentioned I hate performing in front of a lot of people?

20. Tied to the Bed or to a St Andrew’s Cross?
The bed.